Don’t be surprised if your mate resists adoption even as you are embracing it.
BY JILL SMOLOWE

The author and her family
It was a long haul to persuade my husband to start a family. When biology failed us, he felt the subject of children was closed. Joe was not interested in raising a child whom he described as “someone else’s kid.” That was before we went to China, and held an adorable girl who instantly cast her spell over Joe. By the time we got home, he was undeniably Becky’s father.
Now that there’s a happy ending, Joe and I can laugh about our more heated debates, and share our experiences with couples who are thinking about adoption. But when we were in the midst of the decision-making process, I thought Joe and I were a seriously defective marital unit…