Treatment takes a physical, emotional, and financial toll, but infertile couples often feel they have to do “everything they can” before they stop.
By Jill Smolowe
The high-powered job and the marriage were choices made along the way. But Susan, 29, of Houston, cannot remember ever choosing to be a mother. That was simply a given. “Even when I was 7,” she says, “my goal in life was to be a mother.”
Five years ago, she and her husband started trying to conceive. The first year, Susan charted her temperature daily and made sure the couple had sex whenever the mercury dipped. The second year she took a fertility drug—and withstood its resulting mood swings and hot flashes. Two exploratory surgeries followed, then expensive injections of more drugs, which induced potentially fatal ovarian hyperstimulation. Still, the couple pressed on. Susan finally got pregnant after taking a final drug—only to miscarry 11 weeks later…